Sometimes things don’t turn out the way we planned. Disappointments happen. Many times you do absolutely everything right and what you hoped for still doesn’t work out. Sometimes you may feel like you got a raw deal. You may feel that you were royally screwed and you are at your tipping point.
Are you a victim or a victor?
Many times the things we get upset about shouldn’t be allowed to rob us of our joy. I’m not referring about crimes committed against us; if someone attacks (or worse) you or a loved one I would think righteous indignation may be appropriate for that situation. Rather I’m referring to disappointments and frustrations that are a part of everyday life.
Your reaction to disappointment determines your happiness.
It’s certainly acceptable and expected to feel disappointed and frustrated at times. Just don’t let it go on too long and don’t let it fester into a full blown fit of anger. Anger is toxic. Emotions are unbidden, meaning they happen to us. We don’t choose them. But what we can choose is our reactions to them.
Keep it in perspective.
Sometimes it helps to say aloud whatever is bugging you. You may be surprised how non-important, in the grand scheme of things, the issue you just thought was turning your world upside down suddenly becomes not that big of a deal.
Try it. Here’s an example. Let’s say you worked hard and planned diligently to attend a particular destination. Doesn’t matter if it is a family vacation, or an internship/job you wanted or if you were trying to earn an incentive trip. The specifics don’t matter. The key points are: you wanted it; you busted your tail to get there; and for reasons beyond your own control it didn’t happen. [Read more…] about Are You a Victim or a Victor?