Sometimes things don’t turn out the way we planned. Disappointments happen. Many times you do absolutely everything right and what you hoped for still doesn’t work out. Sometimes you may feel like you got a raw deal. You may feel that you were royally screwed and you are at your tipping point.
Are you a victim or a victor?
Many times the things we get upset about shouldn’t be allowed to rob us of our joy. I’m not referring about crimes committed against us; if someone attacks (or worse) you or a loved one I would think righteous indignation may be appropriate for that situation. Rather I’m referring to disappointments and frustrations that are a part of everyday life.
Your reaction to disappointment determines your happiness.
It’s certainly acceptable and expected to feel disappointed and frustrated at times. Just don’t let it go on too long and don’t let it fester into a full blown fit of anger. Anger is toxic. Emotions are unbidden, meaning they happen to us. We don’t choose them. But what we can choose is our reactions to them.
Keep it in perspective.
Sometimes it helps to say aloud whatever is bugging you. You may be surprised how non-important, in the grand scheme of things, the issue you just thought was turning your world upside down suddenly becomes not that big of a deal.
Try it. Here’s an example. Let’s say you worked hard and planned diligently to attend a particular destination. Doesn’t matter if it is a family vacation, or an internship/job you wanted or if you were trying to earn an incentive trip. The specifics don’t matter. The key points are: you wanted it; you busted your tail to get there; and for reasons beyond your own control it didn’t happen. Continue reading
Have you ever made a mistake?
What a ludicrous question, right? Of course we’ve all made mistakes and we will continue to make them. I like to call it Stupid Tax. I generally end up having to pay for my mistakes – sometimes literally in hard earned money and other times in consequences.
Point being, if you screw up, admit it, learn from it and move on. The end. Don’t beat yourself up over it; and by all means don’t quit your direct sales business. It doesn’t matter if you forgot to enter a customer’s order; or you spilled at the host’s house or you told a prospective recruit wrong information. I’m sure you didn’t do it on purpose. That’s why it’s called an accident; a mistake.
If you own up to it, take responsible and apologize, then make it right the best you can, that pretty much puts an end to the issue. It generally diffuses any potential volatility. If you are authentic and say, “I’m sorry, I dropped the ball, let me make it up to you.” what can the other person say, really? Continue reading
It’s 2014. We’ve had some difficult years as far as the economy is concerned. It’s certainly not like the good old days of 2007. However the economic outlook is good. According to CNN unemployment is down; home prices, construction and sales are all on the rise; auto sales recently had their strongest growth since 2006; gas prices have fallen dramatically this year, and the stock market has risen sharply.
If you’re not convinced of all the economic improvements just to go your local restaurant row any Friday or Saturday night. Parking spots will be at a premium as will wait times for a table. Then head over to your shopping mall and good luck finding a parking place there too. Try to find a seat at a movie theater when new films open.
Now try to tell me that your direct sales business is down because of the poor economy.
I’m not buying it. There is no shortages of people who are spending money on purchases other than necessities. Yet weekly I still hear direct sales consultants using the economy as an excuse why their business isn’t doing as well lately. I will concede that some of your current customers may no longer be making as many purchases due to their economic struggles. However what is likely more accurate is that some independent consultants aren’t doing as well because some consultants have not reworked their businesses to account for the shifting economy.
Do you see the difference?
Is your business not soaring right now because of the economy? Or more likely is it because you have not reworked your business accordingly. What used to work for you may not now. Those who used to purchase regularly may no longer. But that is not the company and not the economy to blame. I know that sounds harsh, but let’s be real. “The economy” is not the real reason you’re struggling. Continue reading
Ever wonder why some direct sales consultants seem to have more success than others? Why some make it look easy and yet you can’t seem to get one sale, booking or recruit? First of all, know that direct sales can be an easy sell, but it’s certainly not easy. If it were, everyone would do it.
Below are a handful of actionable items you can do that separate the successful ones from those who constantly struggle.
1. Don’t quit.
Many consultants quit their direct sales business after just a short time – far too early before they can become successful. Sadly some desperate to recruit new team members like to say: “It’s easy! It’s fun! You’ll make great money!” While all those are certainly possible, you won’t find it easy, fun and profitable without a great deal of work. This is true for all direct sellers. If you decide to give yourself just six months and if by then you’re not rolling in the dough and have your calendar booked, you’re quitting … well that’s just unreasonable. Successful direct sellers keep on keeping on – even when they don’t feel like it and even when it’s hard.
2. Work hard.
See #1 above. Treat your business like a business, not like a hobby. If you want to work from home, you have to show up to work … and be prepared to work. It takes discipline to work when there are so many other distractions and there isn’t a boss monitoring your work. You wanted to be your own boss, so monitor your work. If you joined mainly for the purpose to get the host rewards of free or half off product, then perhaps business ownership isn’t for you at this time; and that’s okay. You can be the hostess with the mostess; your friends will look forward to your fun parties and you can still reap the benefits of the products without all the responsibilities of business ownership.
While shoveling snow this morning I was recalling a time when I received a new 1.5″ Digital Pocket Viewer as a gift. (Yes your mind wanders looking at all that white stuff day after day, after day). So anyway…. I was thinking about this little gadget I received. It was before I had a smart phone so I didn’t have any way to keep in my purse digital photos of my kiddos.
The first page of the little manual read: READ ALL INSTRUCTIONS BEFORE USE. I remember thinking how difficult could this little gizmo could be, as it was merely a little plug and play device. It was written in all caps, so the warning scared me into actually reading all instructions before use.
At the very bottom of paragraph two I read (again in all caps) DO NOT LAUNCH THE SOFTWARE YET. We all know someone or many someones who never read instructions. They can just figure it out … or so they think. In this particular case launching the software at that point would seem like a natural thing to do.
Then I started thinking about all the people who sign up to be consultants for home-based companies. (I told you the snow shoveling mind wanders). Most independent consultants are either given or have access to the company policies and procedures. It is my understanding that most enrollment processes require that new consultants also need to sign or click that they have read, and agree to the information contained in the policies and procedures. They affirm that they have READ ALL INSTRUCTIONS BEFORE USE. However it has been my experience that truly, most do NOT read the policies and procedures before beginning their business. Continue reading